When a man is born into this world he carries within him the seed of all previous births, the genes of the first man, and apes before him, from where human race originally evolved. This explains the animal qualities we all posses. We can see most children in earlier years have qualities like snatching, grabbing, hurting others, coveting other people’s possession, using force and exhibiting unrefined emotions. Many humans continue to posses these qualities well into their adult life.
It is also true as per the same evolution process, we, including very small children, yearn to reach a higher much-elevated plane, within ourselves. If you would notice very small children love to be called good children and behave better when they are told they would be called bad boys if they don’t do as they were told. This spiritual thirst is there in all human beings. This inward consciousness, the self-judging, ongoing debate about right and wrong is the unique sixth sense, which is very special to human beings alone.
Children look up to adults for guidance to this superior self-development. Hence it is the solemn responsibility of the adults around these children, the parents and teachers, to guide them towards this inner upliftment, by modeling positive qualities and by providing them a peaceful neat, uncluttered and natural environment where their souls and minds will be nourished..
So how are we going to fill their heart with everything sublime? How are we going to carry on with our supreme duty of guidance? For this we need to stop yelling at them for making mistakes. We need to teach them how to forgive by modeling forgiveness ourselves .We need to stop making a big fuss when some other child in school is rude with our child. By stopping to instigate revengeful actions against that child who misbehaves with him, we can help him to learn to forgive.
Anything that goes along with nature is good and peaceful and away from it is pain and struggle. So we should take into account the nature of the child at every developmental stage and teach him in concurrence with his individual temperament. For his inner happiness, making him feel wanted, loved, respected, confident and useful is important. Disciplining him is to make him understand , but not to make him feel guilty or venting our anger
Children at this stage learn best by observation, play and conversation. By developing that spiritual bonding with them with of love, peace and harmony, we can show them the way to adapt to the world around them. We need to be realistic in our expectations from them. We ought to be affectionate not only when they please us by achieving something/ by being successful , but accepting them for whatever they are. Let us understand that every one has limitations. After all we do not stand up to our own expectations!
The adults around a child in his first six years can shape his personality, intelligence, emotions for all the rest of his life. Researchers had established even the growth and shape of brain is influenced by his experiences in the early years.
It is also true as per the same evolution process, we, including very small children, yearn to reach a higher much-elevated plane, within ourselves. If you would notice very small children love to be called good children and behave better when they are told they would be called bad boys if they don’t do as they were told. This spiritual thirst is there in all human beings. This inward consciousness, the self-judging, ongoing debate about right and wrong is the unique sixth sense, which is very special to human beings alone.
Children look up to adults for guidance to this superior self-development. Hence it is the solemn responsibility of the adults around these children, the parents and teachers, to guide them towards this inner upliftment, by modeling positive qualities and by providing them a peaceful neat, uncluttered and natural environment where their souls and minds will be nourished..
So how are we going to fill their heart with everything sublime? How are we going to carry on with our supreme duty of guidance? For this we need to stop yelling at them for making mistakes. We need to teach them how to forgive by modeling forgiveness ourselves .We need to stop making a big fuss when some other child in school is rude with our child. By stopping to instigate revengeful actions against that child who misbehaves with him, we can help him to learn to forgive.
Anything that goes along with nature is good and peaceful and away from it is pain and struggle. So we should take into account the nature of the child at every developmental stage and teach him in concurrence with his individual temperament. For his inner happiness, making him feel wanted, loved, respected, confident and useful is important. Disciplining him is to make him understand , but not to make him feel guilty or venting our anger
Children at this stage learn best by observation, play and conversation. By developing that spiritual bonding with them with of love, peace and harmony, we can show them the way to adapt to the world around them. We need to be realistic in our expectations from them. We ought to be affectionate not only when they please us by achieving something/ by being successful , but accepting them for whatever they are. Let us understand that every one has limitations. After all we do not stand up to our own expectations!
The adults around a child in his first six years can shape his personality, intelligence, emotions for all the rest of his life. Researchers had established even the growth and shape of brain is influenced by his experiences in the early years.
"We need to be realistic in our expectations from them. We ought to be affectionate not only when they please us by achieving something/ by being successful , but accepting them for whatever they are" - very poweful words. well said. Lakshmi
ReplyDeleteThis short blog is better than a 250 page book on Child's self development. Clear thinking and a sensible approach to understanding child's self development. Bravo. Ramesh
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